Psalm 7 “Refuge from Attack”

This week we looked at psalm 7, where David sings to the LORD in response to verbal attack.

Psalm 7 (ESV)

A Shiggaion of David, which he sang to the Lord concerning the words of Cush, a Benjaminite.

O Lord my God, in you do I take refuge;
    save me from all my pursuers and deliver me,
lest like a lion they tear my soul apart,
    rending it in pieces, with none to deliver.

O Lord my God, if I have done this,
    if there is wrong in my hands,
if I have repaid my friend[b] with evil
    or plundered my enemy without cause,
let the enemy pursue my soul and overtake it,
    and let him trample my life to the ground
    and lay my glory in the dust. Selah

Arise, O Lord, in your anger;
    lift yourself up against the fury of my enemies;
    awake for me; you have appointed a judgment.
Let the assembly of the peoples be gathered about you;
    over it return on high.

The Lord judges the peoples;
    judge me, O Lord, according to my righteousness
    and according to the integrity that is in me.
Oh, let the evil of the wicked come to an end,
    and may you establish the righteous—
you who test the minds and hearts,[c]
    O righteous God!
10 My shield is with God,
    who saves the upright in heart.
11 God is a righteous judge,
    and a God who feels indignation every day.

12 If a man[d] does not repent, God[e] will whet his sword;
    he has bent and readied his bow;
13 he has prepared for him his deadly weapons,
    making his arrows fiery shafts.
14 Behold, the wicked man conceives evil
    and is pregnant with mischief
    and gives birth to lies.
15 He makes a pit, digging it out,
    and falls into the hole that he has made.
16 His mischief returns upon his own head,
    and on his own skull his violence descends.

17 I will give to the Lord the thanks due to his righteousness,
    and I will sing praise to the name of the Lord, the Most High.

Psalm 73 “Envy, Doubt, and Grace”

The psalms can help us to express the struggles we have, and teach us how to bring our struggles to God. In psalm 73 the psalmist sees people ignoring God and prospering. This raises doubts and questions for us and the psalmist. Peter Boyd from Shore Presbyterian Church (GPCNZ church on the North shore of Auckland), explains.

Psalm 73 (ESV)

Truly God is good to Israel,
    to those who are pure in heart.
But as for me, my feet had almost stumbled,
    my steps had nearly slipped.
For I was envious of the arrogant
    when I saw the prosperity of the wicked.

For they have no pangs until death;
    their bodies are fat and sleek.
They are not in trouble as others are;
    they are not stricken like the rest of mankind.
Therefore pride is their necklace;
    violence covers them as a garment.
Their eyes swell out through fatness;
    their hearts overflow with follies.
They scoff and speak with malice;
    loftily they threaten oppression.
They set their mouths against the heavens,
    and their tongue struts through the earth.
10 Therefore his people turn back to them,
    and find no fault in them.[a]
11 And they say, “How can God know?
    Is there knowledge in the Most High?”
12 Behold, these are the wicked;
    always at ease, they increase in riches.
13 All in vain have I kept my heart clean
    and washed my hands in innocence.
14 For all the day long I have been stricken
    and rebuked every morning.
15 If I had said, “I will speak thus,”
    I would have betrayed the generation of your children.

16 But when I thought how to understand this,
    it seemed to me a wearisome task,
17 until I went into the sanctuary of God;
    then I discerned their end.

18 Truly you set them in slippery places;
    you make them fall to ruin.
19 How they are destroyed in a moment,
    swept away utterly by terrors!
20 Like a dream when one awakes,
    O Lord, when you rouse yourself, you despise them as phantoms.
21 When my soul was embittered,
    when I was pricked in heart,
22 I was brutish and ignorant;
    I was like a beast toward you.

23 Nevertheless, I am continually with you;
    you hold my right hand.
24 You guide me with your counsel,
    and afterward you will receive me to glory.
25 Whom have I in heaven but you?
    And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you.
26 My flesh and my heart may fail,
    but God is the strength[b] of my heart and my portion forever.

27 For behold, those who are far from you shall perish;
    you put an end to everyone who is unfaithful to you.
28 But for me it is good to be near God;
    I have made the Lord God my refuge,
    that I may tell of all your works.

Acts 20:28-32 “Shepherding”

Sometimes we can be reluctant to both give and receive pastoral care. When Paul spoke to the Ephesian Elders at Miletus, he to keep a careful watch on themselves and all the flock, since God has appointed elders to care for the church.

Acts 20:28-32 (ESV)

28 Pay careful attention to yourselves and to all the flock, in which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers, to care for the church of God,[a] which he obtained with his own blood.[b]29 I know that after my departure fierce wolves will come in among you, not sparing the flock; 30 and from among your own selves will arise men speaking twisted things, to draw away the disciples after them. 31 Therefore be alert, remembering that for three years I did not cease night or day to admonish every one with tears. 32 And now I commend you to God and to the word of his grace, which is able to build you up and to give you the inheritance among all those who are sanctified.

Slavery and the Apostle Paul

This article was written to supplement the sermon on Ephesians 6:5-9, and draws extensively from a lecture given by Jimmy Agan[1]

            I was once walking in the mountains around Arthur’s Pass and entered a hut for a break from the rain. I noticed that there was a bible in the hut, which I opened and flicked through it, noticing that someone had added commentary in pen. The bible opened to Ephesians 6: “Slaves, obey your earthly masters.” The word “slaves” was circled and a comment written in the margin: “Slavery! How typically Christian!” 

            This was no carefully researched attack on Christian faith. Yet we as Christians feel the weight of this comment. There is much in the history of slavery that is rightly abhorrent to people living in the 21stcentury. We look back on the horrific abuses in the United States with shame that some who claimed the name of Christ participated in or justified such a terrible mistreatment of human beings.

            As we read our bibles, should we be ashamed of the fact that Paul addressed masters and slaves? Can we rely on the bible as an ethical document? How can we deal with texts such as Ephesians 6 in a way that is neither morally problematic, nor intellectually dishonest? Should we be ashamed that the bible doesn’t just say, “You shall not enslave people” in the same way it says, “You shall not murder?”

            What I offer here are pointers to help us one our way, not a comprehensive treatment of the subject. What does Paul’s instruction that slaves obey their masters indicate about his view of slavery?


1. It’s complicated

       One of the reasons slavery is complicated is that it has taken many forms in history that are distinct from each other.  The slavery in Ancient Greece, in Ancient Rome, in the 18-19th century USA, as regulated in the Old Testament and modern slavery are all distinct kinds of slavery with some overlap, and many differences. We must be careful with what is meant by the word “slave,” or “servant,” or the underlying words in Greek and Hebrew.

            There is also a spectrum of slavery. This is partly why we have various English words like slave, servant, bondservant, indentured servant, employee, staff, serf, and peasant. Some of these words have strong negative connotations for us. Our voluntary submitting to a contract to work for someone is at one end of the spectrum, with lifelong chattel slavery[2] at the other.

            We ourselves are also complicated people. We bring our own assumptions, agendas, and questions to the text. Paul must be understood in his own context without imposing an agenda or our own context on to his writings. It takes patience and humility to recognise that simplistic answers may not be possible. Some questions require us to think carefully and avoid answers that have rhetorical power without being entirely accurate. 

2. Paul never addresses Institution of Slavery Directly:

We can list the relevant Pauline texts in 5 categories[3], excluding metaphorical slavery: 

  • Instructions for mutual respect for slaves and masters: Ephesians 6:5-9; Colossians 3:22-4:1.
  • A call for slaves to respect their masters, for a good witness: 1 Timothy 6:1-2 
  • Statements about the equality of slave and free “in Christ”:  Galatians 3:28; Colossians 3:11.
  • An instruction to be content as a slave, and pursue freedom if the opportunity arises:  1 Corinthians 7:20-24.
  • An encouragement to receive a slave as a brother in Christ:  Philemon


            In none of these cases is Paul addressing slavery in itself. He is writing letters to people who were a part of a society that had slavery woven into it. This does not necessarily imply endorsement of the Roman practice of slavery, as Gavin Ortland explains:

By analogy: I might say to my friend, “Go vote in the next election!” Does this mean my overall philosophy regards democracy as the ideal political system? Or what if I encourage a soldier on the battlefront to follow the orders of his commanding officers—does this reveal my complete perspective on the military, the war he is fighting in, or war itself? Not necessarily. You would need more information to determine that. [4]

            Paul’s silence does not ‘prove’ that Paul endorses slavery. At most it shows that in Paul’s immediate priority in these letters was not on the overthrow of the Roman slave system, but a transformed way of walking within that system.

3. Paul never justifies slavery from the Old Testament or Creation

            This fact is particularly striking in the context of Ephesians 6, where the relationship of husband to wife and parents to children are both grounded in the Old Testament and in Creation (Ephesians 5:31, 6:2). There is much in the Old Testament that Paul could draw on in his instructions but Paul does not invoke these to instruct the slaves he wrote to. This implies that Paul does not see slavery as an essential feature of society, as with marriage and children. Slavery is a result of the fall[5] even as regulated in the Old Testament. This is similar to the way that divorce is not a good thing in itself, but necessary because of sin.

4. Slavery in Roman times was different

            There are some similarities and differences between slavery in the American South, and Roman slavery. We must be careful not to see these as the identical and misunderstand Paul, or to overstate the differences and sanitise Roman slavery. Roman slavery was not race based. Many slaves were either born into it or were captured in battle. There were also opportunities to become free, though this may not have been possible for many. Paul’s comment in 1 Corinthians 7:20-24 indicates that enslaving yourself was an option that some considered. Slaves were not denied education but had many different occupations. “In addition to being farm workers or semiskilled laborers, slaves were also artisans, workers in crafts, architects, physicians, administrators, philosophers, grammarians, writers and teachers.”[6] 

            While some slaves had it good, we can also be sure that abuse of all kinds happened to many slaves. By law slaves were what Aristotle called “human tools.”[7] In terms of numbers, the estimates vary, putting between 15-30% of the population as slaves during the time Paul wrote.[8] 

            There is enough here for us to recognize that the situation that Paul addressing in Ephesians is not the identical as in the US in the 19th Century, though there are some similarities. We should also remember that Paul is not writing as a member of a powerful church that was influential in the ancient world. He is part of a small and vulnerable religion with no immediate means to resist slavery. 

5. Be Careful with Chronological Snobbery

            It can be easy to assume that things are so much better now than they were in 60A.D, and we would have been more moral than anyone at the time. While much progress has been made, particularly in removal of state-approved slavery, there are still an estimated 45 million slaves in the world today. One in four victims is a child.[9] Much of this slavery is driven by the demand for consumption in the West, and delivered at the expense of the poor and vulnerable. Whether we call something slavery or not, there is much in the modern world to be ashamed of. For example, is our prison system far superior to a system where a thief would work in a household until he had worked off his debts? While we may not have a slave in our house, there may be folk on the other side of the world working in appalling conditions that enables our lifestyle. Who picked the tomatoes in the can that we just used for lunch? Let us not assume that we are morally superior to others living in an earlier time.


6. Paul Asserts Equality of Humanity

            In stark contrast with the commonly held views of women, children and slaves, Paul asserts a radical equality of people made in the image of God, in keeping with the Old Testament.[10] Paul affirms that both slaves and masters have been chosen in Christ before the foundation of the world. Masters are to be just and fair in their treatment of slaves. Even if the master-slave relationship remained, they were brothers, and their interaction was governed by God being the master of both. Christ died for both slave and free. Both slave and free are “fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God”(Eph. 2:19, ESV). This has immediate application for us in our churches today. Do we teach and demonstrate this equality? Some people get pushed to the fringes of society, and it can be implied that they are worth less than others. Do they experience the same thing when they come to church? Are foreigners, the poor, those with disabilities, the elderly, the very young etc. treated with dignity?

7. The Gospel Paul Preached Undermines Roman Slavery

            While Paul does not directly address the institution of slavery, the gospel that he preached was and is ultimately incompatible with various essential elements of Roman slavery. Paul does not start with the institution, he starts with the preaching of the gospel, and presses it home to show how it radically redefines the way we walk. Just as Jesus had taught that true greatness means being last of all and servant of all, so Paul emphasized the humility that comes from the gospel. Roman Slavery allowed masters to treat people like things, to make economic gains at the expense of others, and to maintain a sense of superiority over others. Paul’s gospel undermines this directly. People are not things, we are to look to the interests of others, and we are of equal worth before God. It is therefore not a coincidence that Christians have been at the forefront of resisting the evils of slavery throughout history and today.

Jimmy Agan sums things up well:

While not directly condemning slavery as a social institution, Paul was creating a Christian community in which slavery should be viewed as a departure from God’s purposes in creation and redemption, and in which human relationships should be so transformed that slavery cannot continue to exist.[11]


[1] Much of this paper draws from Agan, “Slaves and Masters in the Pauline Corpus”

[2] ‘Chattel slavery’ is a phrase used to describe slavery where the person themselves is viewed as a chattel, or property of an owner.

[3] These are the categories given by Jimmy Agan. (Agan, “Slaves and Masters in the Pauline Corpus”)

[4] Gavin Ortland, TGC

[5] We see this in the way that OT Slavery is entered only as a result of poverty, kidnapping, punishment or war. The goal of OT slavery is its own elimination.

[6] Rupprecht, “SLAVE, SLAVERY,” Dictionary of Paul and His Letters, 880.

[7] Rupprecht, “SLAVE, SLAVERY,” 

[8] Harrill, “Slavery,” DNTB, 1126.

[9] International Justice Mission Website. https://www.ijm.org/slavery

[10] e.g. “If I have rejected the cause of my manservant or my maidservant, when they brought a complaint against me, what then shall I do when God rises up? When he makes inquiry, what shall I answer him? Did not he who made me in the womb make him? And did not one fashion us in the womb?”(Job 31:13–15 ESV)

[11] Agan, “Slaves and Masters in the Pauline Corpus”


Bibliography:

Agan, Clarence Dewitt “Jimmy,” 2013.  “Slaves and Masters in Pauline Corpus” (Lecture notes, Covenant Theological Seminary, St Louis).

Harrill, J. A. 2000. ““Slavery”.” In Dictionary of New Testament Background, edited by Craig A. Evans and Stanley E. Porter. Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press.

Ortland, Gavin. 2018. “Why It’s Wrong To Say The Bible Is Pro-Slavery.” The Gospel Coalition. June 7, 2018. https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/why-wrong-say-bible-pro-slavery/.

Rupprecht, A. A. 1993. ““Slavery.” In Dictionary of Paul and His Letters , edited by Gerald F. Hawthorne, 880. Leciester, England: InterVarsity Press.

n.d. “Slavery Today | International Justice Mission.” IJM. Accessed October 28, 2019. https://www.ijm.org/slavery.

-John van Rij

Mark 9:38-41 “Selfish Ambition”

If we have a passion our own glory at the expense of God’s glory and love for our neighbours, this is called selfish ambition. Today John spoke from Mark 9, where the disciples tried to hinder a man from casting out a demon.

Mark 9:38-41 (ESV)

38 John said to him, “Teacher, we saw someone casting out demons in your name, and we tried to stop him, because he was not following us.” 39 But Jesus said, “Do not stop him, for no one who does a mighty work in my name will be able soon afterward to speak evil of me. 40 For the one who is not against us is for us.41 For truly, I say to you, whoever gives you a cup of water to drink because you belong to Christ will by no means lose his reward.

Judges 6:33-7:25 “True Faith”

As Christians we often talk about the need for faith, but what is it really? What does it look like. This week Sam Duthie from GPC Gore spoke from the life of Gideon.

Judges 6:33-7:25 (ESV)

33 Now all the Midianites and the Amalekites and the people of the East came together, and they crossed the Jordan and encamped in the Valley of Jezreel.34 But the Spirit of the Lord clothed Gideon, and he sounded the trumpet, and the Abiezrites were called out to follow him. 35 And he sent messengers throughout all Manasseh, and they too were called out to follow him. And he sent messengers to Asher, Zebulun, and Naphtali, and they went up to meet them.

36 Then Gideon said to God, “If you will save Israel by my hand, as you have said,37 behold, I am laying a fleece of wool on the threshing floor. If there is dew on the fleece alone, and it is dry on all the ground, then I shall know that you will save Israel by my hand, as you have said.” 38 And it was so. When he rose early next morning and squeezed the fleece, he wrung enough dew from the fleece to fill a bowl with water. 39 Then Gideon said to God, “Let not your anger burn against me; let me speak just once more. Please let me test just once more with the fleece. Please let it be dry on the fleece only, and on all the ground let there be dew.”40 And God did so that night; and it was dry on the fleece only, and on all the ground there was dew.

Then Jerubbaal (that is, Gideon) and all the people who were with him rose early and encamped beside the spring of Harod. And the camp of Midian was north of them, by the hill of Moreh, in the valley.

The Lord said to Gideon, “The people with you are too many for me to give the Midianites into their hand, lest Israel boast over me, saying, ‘My own hand has saved me.’ Now therefore proclaim in the ears of the people, saying, ‘Whoever is fearful and trembling, let him return home and hurry away from Mount Gilead.’” Then 22,000 of the people returned, and 10,000 remained.

And the Lord said to Gideon, “The people are still too many. Take them down to the water, and I will test them for you there, and anyone of whom I say to you, ‘This one shall go with you,’ shall go with you, and anyone of whom I say to you, ‘This one shall not go with you,’ shall not go.” So he brought the people down to the water. And the Lord said to Gideon, “Every one who laps the water with his tongue, as a dog laps, you shall set by himself. Likewise, every one who kneels down to drink.” And the number of those who lapped, putting their hands to their mouths, was 300 men, but all the rest of the people knelt down to drink water.And the Lord said to Gideon, “With the 300 men who lapped I will save you and give the Midianites into your hand, and let all the others go every man to his home.” So the people took provisions in their hands, and their trumpets. And he sent all the rest of Israel every man to his tent, but retained the 300 men. And the camp of Midian was below him in the valley.

That same night the Lord said to him, “Arise, go down against the camp, for I have given it into your hand. 10 But if you are afraid to go down, go down to the camp with Purah your servant. 11 And you shall hear what they say, and afterward your hands shall be strengthened to go down against the camp.” Then he went down with Purah his servant to the outposts of the armed men who were in the camp. 12 And the Midianites and the Amalekites and all the people of the East lay along the valley like locusts in abundance, and their camels were without number, as the sand that is on the seashore in abundance. 13 When Gideon came, behold, a man was telling a dream to his comrade. And he said, “Behold, I dreamed a dream, and behold, a cake of barley bread tumbled into the camp of Midian and came to the tent and struck it so that it fell and turned it upside down, so that the tent lay flat.” 14 And his comrade answered, “This is no other than the sword of Gideon the son of Joash, a man of Israel; God has given into his hand Midian and all the camp.”

15 As soon as Gideon heard the telling of the dream and its interpretation, he worshiped. And he returned to the camp of Israel and said, “Arise, for the Lord has given the host of Midian into your hand.” 16 And he divided the 300 men into three companies and put trumpets into the hands of all of them and empty jars, with torches inside the jars. 17 And he said to them, “Look at me, and do likewise. When I come to the outskirts of the camp, do as I do. 18 When I blow the trumpet, I and all who are with me, then blow the trumpets also on every side of all the camp and shout, ‘For the Lord and for Gideon.’”

19 So Gideon and the hundred men who were with him came to the outskirts of the camp at the beginning of the middle watch, when they had just set the watch. And they blew the trumpets and smashed the jars that were in their hands. 20 Then the three companies blew the trumpets and broke the jars. They held in their left hands the torches, and in their right hands the trumpets to blow. And they cried out, “A sword for the Lord and for Gideon!” 21 Every man stood in his place around the camp, and all the army ran. They cried out and fled. 22 When they blew the 300 trumpets, the Lord set every man’s sword against his comrade and against all the army. And the army fled as far as Beth-shittah toward Zererah,[a] as far as the border of Abel-meholah, by Tabbath. 23 And the men of Israel were called out from Naphtali and from Asher and from all Manasseh, and they pursued after Midian.

24 Gideon sent messengers throughout all the hill country of Ephraim, saying, “Come down against the Midianites and capture the waters against them, as far as Beth-barah, and also the Jordan.” So all the men of Ephraim were called out, and they captured the waters as far as Beth-barah, and also the Jordan. 25 And they captured the two princes of Midian, Oreb and Zeeb. They killed Oreb at the rock of Oreb, and Zeeb they killed at the winepress of Zeeb. Then they pursued Midian, and they brought the heads of Oreb and Zeeb to Gideon across the Jordan.

Mark 9:30-37 “True Greatness”

We often seek after greatness in our connection to great people. Jesus teaches his disciples that true greatness comes another way.

Mark 9:30-37 (ESV)

30 They went on from there and passed through Galilee. And he did not want anyone to know, 31 for he was teaching his disciples, saying to them, “The Son of Man is going to be delivered into the hands of men, and they will kill him. And when he is killed, after three days he will rise.” 32 But they did not understand the saying, and were afraid to ask him.

33 And they came to Capernaum. And when he was in the house he asked them, “What were you discussing on the way?” 34 But they kept silent, for on the way they had argued with one another about who was the greatest. 35 And he sat down and called the twelve. And he said to them, “If anyone would be first, he must be last of all and servant of all.” 36 And he took a child and put him in the midst of them, and taking him in his arms, he said to them, 37 “Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, and whoever receives me, receives not me but him who sent me.”

Mark 9:14-29 “Help my Unbelief”

In misery we can think that no-one can help. In ministry we can neglect prayer because we don’t think we need Jesus. This morning we looked at the record of Jesus healing a boy with an unclean spirit causing symptoms similar to epilepsy.

Mark 9:14-29 (ESV)

14 And when they came to the disciples, they saw a great crowd around them, and scribes arguing with them. 15 And immediately all the crowd, when they saw him, were greatly amazed and ran up to him and greeted him. 16 And he asked them, “What are you arguing about with them?” 17 And someone from the crowd answered him, “Teacher, I brought my son to you, for he has a spirit that makes him mute. 18 And whenever it seizes him, it throws him down, and he foams and grinds his teeth and becomes rigid. So I asked your disciples to cast it out, and they were not able.” 19 And he answered them, “O faithless generation, how long am I to be with you? How long am I to bear with you? Bring him to me.” 20 And they brought the boy to him. And when the spirit saw him, immediately it convulsed the boy, and he fell on the ground and rolled about, foaming at the mouth. 21 And Jesus asked his father, “How long has this been happening to him?” And he said, “From childhood. 22 And it has often cast him into fire and into water, to destroy him. But if you can do anything, have compassion on us and help us.” 23 And Jesus said to him, “‘If you can’! All things are possible for one who believes.” 24 Immediately the father of the child cried out[a] and said, “I believe; help my unbelief!” 25 And when Jesus saw that a crowd came running together, he rebuked the unclean spirit, saying to it, “You mute and deaf spirit, I command you, come out of him and never enter him again.” 26 And after crying out and convulsing him terribly, it came out, and the boy was like a corpse, so that most of them said, “He is dead.” 27 But Jesus took him by the hand and lifted him up, and he arose. 28 And when he had entered the house, his disciples asked him privately, “Why could we not cast it out?” 29 And he said to them, “This kind cannot be driven out by anything but prayer.”

Mark 9:1-13 “Listen to Him!”

God the father speaks audibly only 3 times in the gospels, and only ever gives one command. Today we looked at what God commanded, and why it matters.

Mark 9:1-13 (ESV)

And he said to them, “Truly, I say to you, there are some standing here who will not taste death until they see the kingdom of God after it has come with power.”

And after six days Jesus took with him Peter and James and John, and led them up a high mountain by themselves. And he was transfigured before them, and his clothes became radiant, intensely white, as no one[a] on earth could bleach them.And there appeared to them Elijah with Moses, and they were talking with Jesus.And Peter said to Jesus, “Rabbi,[b] it is good that we are here. Let us make three tents, one for you and one for Moses and one for Elijah.” For he did not know what to say, for they were terrified. And a cloud overshadowed them, and a voice came out of the cloud, “This is my beloved Son;[c] listen to him.” And suddenly, looking around, they no longer saw anyone with them but Jesus only.

And as they were coming down the mountain, he charged them to tell no one what they had seen, until the Son of Man had risen from the dead. 10 So they kept the matter to themselves, questioning what this rising from the dead might mean.11 And they asked him, “Why do the scribes say that first Elijah must come?”12 And he said to them, “Elijah does come first to restore all things. And how is it written of the Son of Man that he should suffer many things and be treated with contempt? 13 But I tell you that Elijah has come, and they did to him whatever they pleased, as it is written of him.”

Mark 8:34-38 “Self-Denial”

Following on from his clear statement that he would suffer, die and rise again, Jesus gives teaching on discipleship. To be a follower of Jesus, self denial is essential, but we often misunderstand what this actually means. John explains.

Mark 8:34-38 (ESV)

34 And calling the crowd to him with his disciples, he said to them, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.35 For whoever would save his life[a] will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake and the gospel’s will save it. 36 For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul? 37 For what can a man give in return for his soul?38 For whoever is ashamed of me and of my words in this adulterous and sinful generation, of him will the Son of Man also be ashamed when he comes in the glory of his Father with the holy angels.”